Departures

Over the last few years friends have been slowly leaving the city, pursuing careers, changing careers, or just following personal whims and urges, and now as 2012 is drawing to a close it seems that out of a number of regular groups of friends there are now only a handful remaining locally. Now this isn't a post about sorrow, loss and abandonment - any of you that know me personally will understand that I don't really see the world that way.

Even when some of these friends were within walking distance I might not see them for months on end. I don't see any huge change there. Indeed, even when a number of these friends lived close by we'd often all travel well away from here in order to actually spend time together.

No distance of place or lapse of time can lessen the friendship of those who are thoroughly persuaded of each other’s worth.
— Robert Southey

Some of these friends have travelled hundreds of miles and I still have conversations with them almost daily. I'm not sure that distance matters much anymore. These are also friends, that in the last few years, have gotten married, had children, gotten new and interesting jobs - gotten on with life. So perhaps this is just the way that things happen.

If anything is to be learned from observing the lives of the friends around you, it surely must be a reminder to continue to build your own.